YOUR BODY /
Introduction

Your body is perhaps the most sexual organ of all. It’s the control center for everything we think and feel. Although we humans may look quite similar on the outside, our bodies are all different, as are our perceptions of what’s pleasurable. Whatever your body looks like and however it works, you are entitled to feel valuable and decide what is best for your own body. Getting to know your own body is a good foundation for using it for pleasure – on your own or with other people. Here you can read about the human body, and a bit about how it works when it comes to sex and pleasure. Feel your way forward, and be sure to have plenty of fun along the way!

 

YOUR BODY /
The ass

At the outermost part of the ass are two sphincter muscles, an outer one and an inner one. The sphincter muscles surround the anal opening and can be relaxed and contracted. If you want to receive something up the ass for anal sex, it’s vital that both sphincter muscles are relaxed in order to enjoy it and avoid injury. The outer sphincter muscle can be controlled, which means you decide how you want to use it. However, the inner sphincter muscle cannot be controlled but reacts to pressure, whether that pressure is coming internally or externally. When, for instance, you push a finger, a cock or a dildo carefully onto the inner sphincter muscle it initially contracts, but after a short period (about 15 seconds) it relaxes. Just inside the anal opening is the rectum, which curves slightly backward toward the back, with a depth of about 6 inches/15 centimeters before it becomes the large intestine. There is another sphincter muscle in-between the rectum and the large intestine, which helps keep feces out of the rectum until you need to take a dump. A thin and sensitive mucous membrane lines the inside of the ass. This anal membrane is far more sensitive than that found in the vagina. The type of mucous membrane in the ass is one that absorbs moisture, which makes the ass particularly vulnerable to HIV and STIs. The mucous membrane in the ass does not produce its own lubrication, so if you’re having penetrative anal sex it’s important to use plenty […]

 

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The brain

The brain is an incredibly powerful sexual command center. It is our most important organ when it comes to sex and pleasure. The brain controls our emotions and perceptions, as well as the physical reactions associated with excitement and attraction. Sexual excitement ignites our brain’s pleasure center, which is what we call the brain’s reward system. For example, when the levels of dopamine and endorphins are increased in the brain, our bodies get a feeling of happiness and well-being. The brain also activates all kinds of reactions throughout the body; such as, when our blood flow  increases we become more sensitive to touch and other sensory impressions. Touch, sight, smell, taste and hearing are processed in the brain. These are all important aspects of desire and sexual hormones. Sexual arousal can be initiated by pure power of thought, for example when you fantasize about something that turns you on. In fact it can sometimes be hard to keep your horniness in check, even though it might turn up at an inappropriate time or place (like the shower at the gym). Other times you really wish you could get sexually aroused but your horny-brain seems to be switched off. If you’re having sexual problems such as reduced libido, erectile dysfunction or vaginal dryness, the brain might often be a culprit. The same might be true if you have problems with self-esteem or in your personal life. These both impact your sex life. How you are feeling generally, both mentally and physically, also affects your ability to […]

 

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The cock

Cocks vary from one person to the next and come in different colors, shapes and sizes. The outside is covered by skin without any subcutaneous fat, therefore sebaceous glands, sweat glands and hair follicles are often visible as lumps on the skin. Veins are also often especially visible on the cock. The foreskin protects the glans or helmet at the end of the cock. Iif you’ve been circumcised some or all of the foreskin has been removed. Smegma forms under the foreskin, and is a kind of secretion that helps protect skin and mucous membranes on the outer part of the cock. The foreskin is very sensitive, and many men like to pull the foreskin back and forth over the head of the cock when they masturbate. The head or helmet is generally the most sensitive part of the cock and is important for sex and pleasure. Just like the rest of the cock, the head contains erectile tissue and becomes extra sensitive to touching when you’re turned on. Around the edge of the helmet there are often pearly penile papules, small bumps that can vary in size from one person to the next. Do not worry if you have them- they’re completely harmless and not a disease. On the underside of the head, just where it connects to the shaft, is an area called the frenulum, which is usually the very most sensitive part of the glans. The scrotum or ball-sack is made up of ordinary skin, but unlike many other parts of the […]

 

YOUR BODY /
The pussy

One can be born with a pussy, and one can acquire one through surgery. And some transmen keep theirs, but they might call it something else. All the content that follows is mainly applicable to people who were born with one, although some information can be useful for those with a neo-vagina. Visible on the outside of the pussy are the outer lips (labia majora), the inner lips (labia minora) and the clitoris hood, also sometimes known as the foreskin. Just above the vaginal opening is the urethral opening, and just above that is the clitoris, or rather the ‘glans clitoris’ which is the nub of the clit. The outer lips are often ordinary skin, but they are sensitive to contact and swell on sexual arousal. The outer lips are hairy and may be slightly darker than the rest of the skin. The inner labia extend from the clitoris nub and down around the vaginal opening, and they vary in color, shape and size. For example, many people have one long and one short inner lip. When you get turned on they swell and become extra sensitive to touching. The inner lips are ordinary skin on the outside and mucous membrane on the inside. Therefore, avoid using soap to wash inside as this can dry you out and irritate the mucous membrane, and increase the risk of fungal infection. Many simply use water, although there are also special soaps you can buy. The clitoris Above the clitoris itself is the clit hood. Many people who […]

 

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TRANS BODIES

The perception of gender affiliation and your own body can be important in a sex and pleasure context. Being a trans person doesn’t automatically mean you want to change your body, but it may influence how you choose to use it for pleasure and to have sex. Some trans people have a desire to change their body so that it’s more consistent with their own identity and body perception. If you change your body with surgery, you need to let it heal properly before trying out sex with your new body. How long a body takes to heal varies from one person to the next. It’s best to talk to your doctor, and don’t forget to listen to your body. But you can of course have sex with other parts of your body than just the genitals during the healing process and afterwards. When it comes to breast surgery, it’s important to take care and avoid exposing the area before it has healed. It is an individual and personal choice on what to call the parts of their body. You decide what you want to call the different parts of your own body. Communicate with your partner or partners about which words they prefer when referring to their body, and talk about how you see yourself. You could for instance call your genitals a cock, regardless of what they actually look like. Some people talk about “trans competent” sex, in the sense of being able to fuck without the other person feeling gender-assigned in a […]

 

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Erogenous zones

When we talk about sexually sensitive parts of the body (erogenous zones), the cock, pussy and ass are often the obvious examples. You can read about these further down the page, but first: Let’s not forget that there are many other parts of the body that can feel amazing when it comes to sexual desire and pleasure! The sensitivity of a particular part of the body depends partly on the number of tactile corpuscles in that part – the more tactile corpuscles, the more sensitive that body part will often feel. Tactile corpuscles are nerve endings that register different kinds of sensory impressions. They are primarily found in the skin. It is on the outside of the body that we find the largest regions of sensitive spots  (in terms of area at least). As mentioned earlier, sensory impressions are processed in the brain and are often important aspects of desire and horniness. Sensory impressions from certain body parts affect the brain’s pleasure center more than others, such as signals from the cock and the pussy. In addition to physical contact, mental and emotional stimulation are often also needed to turn a person on, or to get them to feel good in that special way. Depending on what turns you on and the situation you’re in, you can react very differently to touch from one time to the next. One interesting example is our fingers, where the fingertips are full of tactile corpuscles and nerves. These can be perceived as pleasantly sensitive but still not make […]

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